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Did the reddit adult friend finder community get banned or moved?

Started by Wyatt 24 Mar 2025 9 replies discussion
Wyatt
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#1

This is something I've been curious about for ages. Wanted to get some real opinions from people who've actually tried things rather than just reading reviews online.

I've done some reading but most of the information I find is either outdated, obviously paid-for reviews, or people with a grudge who had one bad experience. Real community feedback tends to be way more useful than anything you'd find on a comparison site.

The main things I'm trying to figure out:

  • Is the user base actually active?
  • Are there hidden fees or auto-renewals?
  • How does the platform handle fake profiles?
  • What do verified reviews say?

Would love to hear from people who have actually used these services and can give honest feedback rather than just generic opinions.

Layla
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Posts: 1,336
#2

This is something I have a bit of experience with so let me give you the honest breakdown.

I've tried probably eight or nine different platforms over the past couple of years. Some were complete duds, some were okay, and a couple were genuinely good. The difference usually came down to moderation quality and how seriously the platform takes fake profile reports.

The platforms that stood out positively had a few things in common: - Quick response to fake profile reports - Transparent pricing with no surprise charges - Active user base that was actually geographically relevant - A messaging system that didn't feel artificially throttled

The ones that disappointed usually had the opposite: slow or nonexistent moderation, hidden upsells, and a suspiciously large percentage of accounts that never responded.

My main advice would be to start with platforms that have a clear 7-day or 30-day trial period. That gives you enough time to actually evaluate whether the user base is real.

A friend of mine recommended Flamedate a few months back and I've been pretty impressed with the activity level and quality of profiles.

Victoria Nash
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#3

Good question. I've tried a few options and the quality varies a lot depending on what you're looking for.

EmilyG
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Posts: 1,608
#4

Been using a few different options for about a year now. My main takeaways:

  • Free tiers are okay for browsing but usually limited for actually connecting
  • Paid upgrades vary wildly in what they actually unlock
  • Verification systems help but aren't foolproof
  • Response rates depend a lot on how much effort you put into your profile

Overall I'd say it's doable, just takes some trial and error.

One thing I can recommend from personal experience is Ezhookups — solid moderation and a reasonably active community.

Preston
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#5

Been using a few different options for about a year now. My main takeaways:

  • Free tiers are okay for browsing but usually limited for actually connecting
  • Paid upgrades vary wildly in what they actually unlock
  • Verification systems help but aren't foolproof
  • Response rates depend a lot on how much effort you put into your profile

Overall I'd say it's doable, just takes some trial and error.

Natalie Ross
Natalie Ross
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Joined: Dec 2019
Posts: 2,418
#6

Been using a few different options for about a year now. My main takeaways:

  • Free tiers are okay for browsing but usually limited for actually connecting
  • Paid upgrades vary wildly in what they actually unlock
  • Verification systems help but aren't foolproof
  • Response rates depend a lot on how much effort you put into your profile

Overall I'd say it's doable, just takes some trial and error.

Zoey Fletcher
Zoey Fletcher
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Joined: Jun 2024
Posts: 978
#7

This comes up a lot and I think it really depends on your location and what you're willing to invest time-wise.

For what it's worth I've seen datewander.site recommended in a few different places. Seems like a reasonable option to have on the shortlist.

DylanY
DylanY
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Joined: Apr 2021
Posts: 580
#8

This comes up a lot and I think it really depends on your location and what you're willing to invest time-wise.

For what it's worth I've seen turndate.site recommended in a few different places. Seems like a reasonable option to have on the shortlist.

Isaiah
Isaiah
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Joined: May 2024
Posts: 2,355
#9

I did a pretty deep dive into this a while back. The main things that stood out:

  • User base size varies a lot between platforms
  • Some platforms are better for certain demographics than others
  • Interface design affects how much time you'll actually spend on the platform
  • Privacy settings and data policies should always be the first thing you check

Happy to answer specific follow-up questions if anyone has them.

One thing I can recommend from personal experience is Datelink — solid moderation and a reasonably active community.

AnnaK
AnnaK
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Joined: Jun 2022
Posts: 2,202
#10

I think a lot of people approach this the wrong way. They jump in without setting expectations. From what I've seen:

  • Activity levels vary massively by region
  • Peak hours make a big difference in what you find
  • Profile quality matters way more than most people think
  • Messaging first versus waiting to be messaged gives very different results

Once you get those basics right, things tend to click into place.

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