So I've spent the last few weeks going down a rabbit hole trying to research this properly. Figured I'd share what I've learned and see what you all think.
I've done some reading but most of the information I find is either outdated, obviously paid-for reviews, or people with a grudge who had one bad experience. Real community feedback tends to be way more useful than anything you'd find on a comparison site.
Messaging first versus waiting to be messaged can make a surprisingly big difference in your response rate.
Would love to hear from people who have actually used these services and can give honest feedback rather than just generic opinions.